The Rules of People: Part 5
The Rules of People: Part 5
ادامه ی فصلی که مربوط به قواعدی است که باید هنگام کمک به مردم رعایت کرد: مهم ترین نکته ای که باید دانست و رعایت کرد این است که کمک کردن با فضولی کردن در امور دیگران و دخالت کردن در زندگی شان فرق دارد. از نخستین قاعده ی این بخش نیز می شود این را فهمید:
41.Get them to think for themselves. No advice, no pressure. Just some really sensible, intelligent questions.
42.Learn to be psychic. You need to be clever about the questions you ask.
43.Listen to what they don’t say. Below the waterline there’s a much bigger problem lurking.
44.People who can’t find an answer may not want one. It can leave you feeling frustrated because you want to be helpful but you seem unable to.
45.Don’t tell people to move on. There are some emotions that people find harder to admit to than others.
46.Loneliness is a state of mind. It has more to do with lacking emotional closeness to other people than lacking physical proximity.
47.Give them privacy. Too much introspection can make you needy and self-centered.
48.All interactions are positive or negative. You’re doing this to other people, as much as they’re doing it to you.
49.Not everyone wants help. It’e not about you. It’s about how it makes them feel.
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