The Rules of People: Part 4
The Rules of People: Part 4
ریچارد تمپلار تعدادی قاعده نیز برای مواردی معرفی کرده است که قصدمان کمک به مردم است. کمک به دیگران را با رعایت نکاتی انجام بدهیم که دلمان می خواهد آنها هنگام کمک به ما در نظر داشته باشند. کمک به مردم آن طور که در آغاز به نظر می رسد کار ساده ای نیست.
32.Put your oxygen mask on first. If you are overcome by emotion, you’ll be very little use to the other person.
33.Get in the swamp. There’s something else you need first before you need solutions.
34.It’s OK just to feel. Other people’s emotions can be like small nervous kittens.
35.Listen, don’t solve. Repress your urge to do something. You are already doing something. You’re listening.
36.Know your limitations. Don’t offer more than you’re confident you can deliver.
37.It’s not a competition. The likelihood of them suddenly feeling better because you’ve pointed out how much worse off you are is zilch.
38.Never give advice. You have no idea what will work for someone else.
39.Accept their decision. Other people’s decisions about their own lives can have an impact on you.
40.Give them control. You might be right that they’re heading towards disaster, but at least they’re behind the wheel.
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