The Rules of Life: Part 5

تا اینجا از قواعدی گفته شد که به خودِ شخص مربوط می شد، یعنی من و شما و هر کسی در زندگی اش. بخش دوم از قواعد زندگی آن قواعدی است که هر کسی باید در ارتباط با همسر یا شریک زندگی اش آن ها را رعایت کند. ملاحظه بفرمایید:

 

1.      Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common. We might get on a whole lot better instead of treating each other as if we were separate species.

2.      Allow your partner the space to be themselves. What attracted you? What was special about them? What turned you on?

3.      Be nice. Go back to square one and start being courteous again.

4.      You want to do what? You have to be prepared for them to be independent, strong, out in the world separate from you.

5.      Be the first to say sorry. We can say sorry and retain our dignity and respect.

6.      Go that extra step in trying to please them. Why wouldn’t you want to do this? Why wouldn’t you be doing it already?

7.      Know when to listen and when to act. Knowing when to offer tea and sympathy or a tool kit and a stout rope instead is the skill to learn.

8.      Have a passion for your life together. You are dedicating your life to someone else’s happiness.

9.      Make sure your love making is making love. We have the right to privacy, to respect, to be held in high esteem.

10.   Keep talking. If we aren’t talking there is something wrong. If we aren’t talking, what are we doing.

11.   Respect privacy. If you feel a need to intrude on someone else’s privacy, you have to take a long hard look at yourself and fathom out why.

12.   Check you both have the same shared goals. You have to keep checking that you are both singing from the same map.

13.   Treat your partner better than your best friend. What do you see your partner as ... What is their role or function in being your partner?

14.   Contentment is a high aim. Contentment is what you hope for after the elation has worn off.

15.   You don’t both have to have the same rules. The happiest relationships are where both parties see the need for flexibility in their rules.

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The Rules of Life: Part 4

1.      Prune your stuff frequently. Clutter overwhelms you emotionally and gets more and more cobwebby.

2.      Remember to touch base. Base is where you were before you got lost.

3.      Draw the lines around yourself. Setting personal boundaries means you don’t have to be scared of other people any more.

4.      Shop for quality, not price. If you can’t afford it, Don’t buy it.

5.      It’s OK to worry, or to know how not to. All you are doing is putting wrinkles in your brow- and that makes you look older you know.

6.      Stay young. Staying young is trying out new tastes, new places to go, new styles.

7.      Throwing money at a problem doesn’t always work. Throwing money at it doesn’t alleviate the problem, it merely delays it.

8.      Think of yourself. We all want to blend in, be one of a crowd, be acknowledged. We all want to belong.

9.      You are not in charge. Once you accept that you’re not in charge you can let go.

10.   Have something in your life that takes you out of yourself. No good it being a piece of music that always lifts your mood if you don’t play it occasionally.

11.   Only the good feel guilty. If you do feel guilty that’s a good sign.

12.   If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. This, my dear, is what they call an adventure.

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The Rules of Life: part 3

1.      Choose how you make your bed. Do the right thing, every time. You know what it is.

2.      Life can be a bit like advertising. You’ll never know from which bits of effort comes the best reward.

3.      Get used to stepping outside your comfort zone. Expanding your comfort zone makes you feel good about yourself.

4.      Learn to ask questions. Questions help people clarify their thoughts.

5.      Have dignity. Dignity is about showing self-respect and having quite self-esteem.

6.      It’s OK to feel big emotions. Sitting on your feelings isn’t a good idea. They just get squashed that way.

7.      Keep the faith. Keeping the faith is something you do. Being a goody-goody is when you try to convert others.

8.      You’ll never understand everything. People will behave oddly. Things will go unexpectedly wrong- or right.

9.      Know where true happiness comes from. I think you might have brought that feeling with you.

10.   Life is a pizza. The best things in life come with chewy dried tomatoes.

11.   Always have someone_ or something_ that is pleased to see you. We all need someone who is pleased to see us. It makes us feel it is all worthwhile.

12.   Know when to let go_ when to walk away. If it’s dead, don’t go digging itbup every five minutes to check if there’s a pulse. It’s dead, walk away.

13.   Retaliation leads to escalation. Anyone who is prepared to cut down your tree or nick your idea isn’t about to take your little act of revenge lying down.

14.   Look after yourself. You’re a grown-up and on your own now.

15. Maintain good manners in all things

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